We all have another person living inside of us that usually comes out to act when triggered. I call that person a “Demon.” Have you ever experienced a moment when you were conquered by fear? We have all been there, right? We have all at some point feared losing something important to us and other times we experienced fear of the unknown.
Fear – is a demon that kills our true identity, that, which is fearless. When we feel fearful, we experience the actual moment of what we do not want to feel, but feel it regardless because we are living in fear.
How to kill this demon – FEAR?
Facing your fears- coming face to face with what we fear the most is one of the toughest things to do. Fear of not getting what you want is one of the biggest obstacles in attracting what you truly desire. In my readings, I usually talk to people about how to face their fears. In this article, I will share a few tips on the subject.
Write down your fears- Firstly, understand why do you fear? Is it due to some past experience? What do you fear the most?
Do you fear getting hurt?
Do you have fear of abandonment?
Fear of letting go of the past?
Fear of failure?
Fear of losing someone?
Write it down – Writing down things that we worry about and fear the most, allows us to acknowledge our fears. Sometimes people tell me that, they feel uncomfortable writing down things they fear the most because, they do not even want to read what they “fear” the most. Acknowledging your fears gives you the power of letting go or fearing less. I have also found that sometimes people find a comfort zone in feeling fearful and tend to feel safer when they feel the fear instead of acknowledging it. Ironic, isn’t it? But it is understandable. Other times I have also seen that we, as humans, have hidden fears that we do not even know exist until we find time to sit down, write them down and acknowledge them.
Do you ever find yourself dwelling on something to a point where you feel like you are going to explode? Sometimes, we have things stewing in our heads, and we endlessly think about things that trigger our worries and fears even for the worse. Trust me, I am in it with you. I struggle with the same things my clients do, but over time I have learned to create a balance in my life and have mastered some tricks to take my power back. If I find myself dwelling on something for longer than it deserves, I know how to draw myself back.
Try this out!
Shift your focus – it’s all in your head. Face it or fight it. It is your choice. I choose to fight it by shifting my focus to doing things that bring me inner joy. For example, I feared gaining weight and constantly counted my calorie intake to a point where I no longer enjoyed my meals. It was always counting calories first and if at all I enjoyed my meal, I would fear an extra serving. At some point I knew, I had to change something. One day I decided to eat whatever the “hell” I wanted to and then used my power to burn the calories. Ever since childhood, I loved dancing and that was my trick “BURN IT OFF, DANCE THE CALORIES AWAY”. The minute I decided to shift my focus on something I loved doing, it brought me inner joy and I no longer worried or feared indulging in some of my favorite meals. No matter what you fear or worry about the most, replacing it with things you enjoy doing will make you worry less. You can also try meditating, taking a walk, listening to music, or just talking to a friend about it. Doing these things will help you change your focus and shift you towards a more positive mindset.
Affirmations – Here, I will teach you the most powerful technique to let go of fear or fear a little less. Take a journal and write down all the opposites of the things you wrote while acknowledging your worries and fears. For example,
I fear getting hurt – I FEEL NURTURED, LOVED, AND CARED FOR IN MY RELATIONSHIPS.
I fear abandonment – I AM SECURED AND PROTECTED. I BELONG TO SOMEONE WHO MAKES ME FEEL SAFE.
I can’t let go of the past – MY PAST HAS SHAPED ME INTO A WISER BEING AND I ONLY HOLD THE MEMORIES OF THE GOOD THINGS I LEARNT FROM IT.
I fear failing – I AM THANKFUL FOR FAILING, FOR IT GAVE A REAL SENSE OF WHAT SUCCESS TASTES LIKE. I AM SUCCESSFUL.
Give it a try and send me a message if you found these tips helpful.
In my next article, I shall talk about another demon- “ANGER”. Stay in touch.
– Khiyati M Barrot